Title: MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend
Author: Rachel Bertsche
Release Date: December 20, 2011
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Genre: Memoir, Non-Fiction
Rating: 4.5 out of 5
After moving to Chicago from New York, Rachel Bertsche has to face a difficult fact. Though she’s thrilled to have “couple friends” with her husband, as well as work friends, she doesn’t have a best friend in the city. Determined to put herself out there and make some new friends, Rachel plans a series of “friend dates” - one each week for a year - in order to expand her social circle and find a new BFF.
If you wanted to meet new people, how would you do it? Would you ask friends to introduce you to their friends, or join a club or group? Would you start going to church, or just strike up conversations with strangers at a coffee shop? While some of these approaches may seem daunting, these types of endeavors are exactly what Rachel Bertsche pursues in her memoir MWF Seeking BFF.
What’s incredible about MWF Seeking BFF is that it’s a book almost every woman can relate to. Even if you are surrounded by the best of friends now, there probably was a point in your life when you weren’t, when you felt alone and wanted new friends. As a result, the subject matter is completely accessible and easy to sympathize with. But even better, Bertsche’s writing style is very engaging. Her prose is crisp and clear, and she writes with such a frank, self-deprecating sense of humor that readers will wish she was their BFF.
There are many different aspects to MWF Seeking BFF, and all of them are interesting. Rachel’s approach to the whole project, friend-dating, is actually a great idea. We go on dates to find spouses, why not for lifelong friends as well? More than once, I marveled at how brave Bertsche was; from approaching complete strangers to following up on those “we should get together!” comments, she pursued every avenue open to her. But what I loved was that she was honest about it all, admitting when she was embarrassed and making an effort not to appear to desperate. The personal aspects of this story are incredibly appealing.
Bertsche also discusses the repercussions of her friend-dating, which were unexpected and intriguing. The quest affects her life and marriage in ways she couldn’t have imagined prior to embarking on it. Additionally, she tackles the stickier aspects of friendships - why, for example, so many women she met seemed to be looking for friends, yet they were afraid to admit it. The memoir is full of interesting tidbits and information, and I appreciated that Bertsche tackled the subject from all angles, talking to professors, experts, and anyone else she could approach.
MWF Seeking BFF is a great memoir that most women will enjoy. I especially recommend it to those in their late twenties and thirties who find themselves in the same situation that Rachel does. I found Bertsche’s enthusiasm and willingness to put herself out there very inspiring, and as I definitely understand her situation (most of my best friends are a phone call, rather than a car ride, away), I will be thinking about her book for a long time to come.