To enter: Leave a comment on this post telling me what you think about pre-nups. Would you ever get one? Do you think that they are completely horrible? Is it understandable in some circumstances, say if one party isn't sure if the other is marrying them for their money? You don't have to answer my specific questions, these are just suggestions to get you thinking!
One entry if you comment on this post, two if you blog about it and link back here. This contest closes on Thursday, Dec. 11, 2008 at 11:59 P.M. U.S. & Canada only, please. Good luck!
One entry if you comment on this post, two if you blog about it and link back here. This contest closes on Thursday, Dec. 11, 2008 at 11:59 P.M. U.S. & Canada only, please. Good luck!
36 comments:
That's a difficult question for me because it's just so "out there." I do think it's understandable if a person has a lot of assets to protect them. I totally understand that a family would want to see one in place. However, if I was asked to sign one, I might be a little offended because it's almost assuming that the marriage won't last. That's probably not a very good answer, but I would like to win the book!
I think that if 2 ppl can come to an agreement over their assets before they marry, it really shouldn't be a big deal. I think you should be able to keep what you came in to the marraige with - not have half be taken should there ever be a divorce. Now whatever income/assets come into play throughout the marriage is fair game.. :)
I wouldn't want to sign one, since I think it is an admission that you think the marraige might not last. But people like Britney Spears NEED to have them.
I think it really depends on how many assets are involved prior to the marriage. You never know what will happen to your relationship. Personally, I wouldn't want to sign one or make my husband sign one. Then again, we have nothing. Well, I have books...lots and lots of books...and he wouldn't want them anyway! LOL
--Anna
Diary of an Eccentric
In this day of 2nd and 3rd marriages I think it is essential to have a prenup, especially if there are children of a previous marriage involved. I wouldn't want to take a chance on someone marrying me for my extensive penguin collection! :)
No need to enter me, but you've got me thinking. I had to write a pre-nup in college, for a class I was taking.
Of course, I wrote it between a rock star and his woman... go figure, huh?
Anyway, thanks for the e-mail. I've got this posted at Win a Book. Without the tale of the rock star's fictional prenup.
I don't like the idea of a pre-nup - you're supposed to totally love and trust the person you're marrying. I've been married for almost 30 years, so I don't think I'll ever sign a pre-nup. milou2ster(at)gmail.com
Unfortunately in the world we live in, I think pre-nups are actually... smart. I don't know. I don't imagine I'll ever feel the need to have one when I get married -- you should able to completely trust the person you love, and not just with money. But for celebrities like Paul McCartney, Madonna and Britney Spears? Definitely important! The people they once loved went on to betray them in some way, or it just didn't work out... whatever. But I'm not totally against them!
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Megan
writing.meg [at] gmail.com
I think that pre-nups are fine as long as both parties agree that the pre-nup is fair. There was no need for my husband and I to have one, we got married at 20 and we were broke. I can understand someone getting a prenup if they have concerns, but I don't think it's something I would do.
akreese(at) hotmail (dot) com
I personally am so broke as not to need a pre-nup however I think they're a very practical necessity in this day and age of disposable marriages that can save you a lot of grief on the other end of things- IF handled properly and fairly. If they're not handled in such a manner than it's probably a good indicator that you shouldn't be marrying that person!
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Jcbdalton (at) yahoo dot com
I would love to win this! Perfect for my upcoming vacation...
My accountant recommended that I get a pre-nup (since I was in my 30's and was established in my career, home, etc...), but I ultimately felt that I shouldn't be marrying my husband if I didn't think we would last.
On the other hand, I do think a pre-nup is a good idea, logically. My parents divorced after 30 years and boy do I wish they had signed a pre-nup!
So, logically, I vote "yes!" but emotionally I voted "no" for myself... :)
I've enjoyed reading the comments!
This is a hard question. I'd like to think that marriage is forever....and would probably be offended if I was asked to sign one.
On the other hand, it can be a good way to have things in order before hand....with assets and stuff. It's a great way for someone to protect themselves....
i think pre-nups are very practical and shouldn't really offend anyone.. it is to protect the wealthy from predators and i think it shouldn't matter if you are in love with the person!
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I don't plan on ever marrying so I won't need one but I do think if both agree it should be ok, otherwise really doesn't it show as mistrust right off the beginning of a marriage. Anyhooooooo, I'd love to win the book.
I think they make sense if there are assets, and I think I would be OK signing one. I do think however that income etc earned during the marriage needs to be treated differently than premarital assets...
Pre-Nups are a really confusing issue for me. I wouldn't want to sign one - it doesn't seem to fit the spirit of marriage. But then, every marriage is different . . .
Thanks for the chance to win this book - it should be interesting!
geebee.reads AT gmail DOT com
I agree with most of the things already said. You don't want to think about the break up of a marriage and it does seem offensive to be asked to sign one. Realistically, it's something important that should be discussed before a marriage. I've been married for 22 years and we had less than nothing when we said "I do" and not a whole lot more now. But someone like Donald Trump (ick!) who has been married 3 or 4 times would be stupid not to. I agree with money earned during the marriage should be split.
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Marriage should be about love, trust and committment. It is so much more than material things. Soooo ... I guess I don't really believe in prenups.
While I can understand why a pre-nup would feel necessary in the case of extreme wealth, I'm not sure how relevant it is for the majority of us. Besides, what about romance, love and optimism? :)
Thanks for the giveaway!
bookopolis at live dot com
Well, enless I happened to marry someone very rich, I don't see the point. Since I don't have anything anyone could want. When I married my husband and I were both poor college students with a few hundered dollars to our names, so there was no contemplation of a pre-nup.
I think if one of the people who gets married has alot of money, the other should sign a pre-nup! tWarner419@aol.com
I think that if there are any assets at all involved (or debt) then there should be a prenup. You just never know.
Of course, I don't have one. But, neither of us really had anything to our names, debt or asset wise.
daq_17 at hotmail dot com
I would never get one, I would want my signfigant other to trust me enough not to take his money! I guess they are understandable in some cases though!
I believe in a prenup if one person is entering into the marriage with way more than the other. I don't think you can be guarantee to be the same person you went into a marriage who said "trust me," as the person entering divorce court. Things happen and I guarantee you, you'll be changed and your feelings obvious towards that other person will be change. And trust will probably be gone too. There's no guarantee that if there's a broken trust, and loss of love issue you won't want to get back at the other person the only way you can hurt them, meaning their bank account.
I think trust is to be earned, not given freely. No matter how well you think you know a person in the beginning, I believe it's only by going through life together through highs and lows that you really get to know them. So I would like to have a plan made out while we still love each other for the possibility that we might not stay together. Considering the divorce rate it is naive to think it couldn't happen to you. A prenup may go a long way to preserving a civil relationship between the two parties that may involve the custody of children resulting from the union. Divorce is hard enough on children, they don't need to deal with any added bitterness arising from it.
I wouldn't want to sign one but if you had a lot of money I could see why someone would want you to sign one.
I would sign one, I understand but I would put a clause that it is null and void if we are still together after 20 years.
i hope i never get one! but then i can see the practicality of having one! i will sign if i have to but i know that sometimes things just don't work out
I don't think i would ever have one! i think if you sign a pre-nup its kind of saying that you expect to fail, i might change my mind later but as for now no!
glittergurl04(at)hotmail(dot)com
I used to think that pre-nups were like saying that marriage would not last forever...but then I got divorced (not my idea), and I realized that in order to protect yourself from the unknown...yes, if you have money, pre-nups are a necessity.
I don't have any money, though, and neither does my current fiance. So we will not be getting a pre-nup. :)
Thank-you for the give away.
I can only speak for myself and also a pre-nup seems ugly and defintely not romantic there are so many divorces. Also in my life I have encountered both women and men...yes!!! who maried for the money the future spouse possessed. This is ugly. So yes I believe if you are wealthy a pre-nup is necessary.
I work for a law firm and we do these every so often. For the right cases, they are very important.
I don't think that I would ever get a pre-nup because it seems like you're starting the marriage already on a bad foot.. like you need a contract to trust one another. But that's just my opinion now.. maybe I'll change my mind one day.
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i don't think that a pre-nup is a good idea emotionally but logically i can see why they make sense
glamorchick_007(at)hotmail(dot)com
i wouldn't want to sign one but if a lot of money is involved as well as children i think that it is importat to ensure you will be well protected!!
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I would sign a pre-nup if my husband wanted it! i don't think that it is a bad thing...more like another paper to sign! if things were to go bad at least the divorce would not be as messy!
swt_babe321 AT hotmail DOT com
I think that if there is not enough trust to not have one, you should not marry
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